In the past few weeks, I have been very fortunate to re-connect with some people from my childhood. I received several beautiful notes and e-mails from teachers I had as a child and conversed with people who strongly influenced my life as I was growing up. What a joy it has been to hear from old friends!
My friend, Kate, had a similar experience. Last weekend she reunited with her college roommates – women she hadn’t seen for many years. On Monday she said that her face hurt from smiling and laughing so much. Listening to her stories of the reunion made me think even more about the power of connecting with old friends.
We are so busy with our day to day activities that we don’t make enough effort to stop and talk with people who are close to us. Making time to even have coffee or talk on the phone with a friend who lives nearby is difficult. If we have trouble reaching out to people who live down the street, how can we possibly think about reaching out to people we haven’t seen in years?
The moments Kate and I shared with these special people in the past few weeks, however, reminded me of the importance of making that effort. There is a comfort that comes from connecting with someone who knows your history. Recalling moments shared and laughing about old times gives us a sense of belonging. Those memories also contribute to the narrative of our lives. Our own story is told and anchored in the people we have met along our way.
Stop and think for a moment about someone you might like to connect with again. Perhaps it’s an old friend or a former teacher. Maybe it’s a coach or a neighbor you once knew. It might even be a relative you haven’t spoken with in a while. Whoever it is, I encourage you to find time this week to make that connection. Call. E-mail. Or send a personal note. The surprise and joy you will give that person will be surpassed only by your own.
Enjoy your week!